Love the Home You Have Challenge | Day 7: Your Sanctuary
David and I recently saw the new Star Wars movie and I was blown away by a quote from one of the characters (don’t worry, no spoilers here). It went something along the lines of: “There is more than one prison. I think you carry yours wherever you go.” As I sat down to write this post, this line came back to me, echoing the theme of today’s #lovethehomeyouhave challenge.
How many times have we left work physically, but then spend the evening mentally preoccupied with to-do lists, emails, or meeting notes? Thanks to technology we are now more connected than ever. However, without limitations, the very devices keeping us in touch can ultimately drive our relationships apart.
When we don’t take a break from work, social media, or other distractions - even if those activities are positive - and focus on self-care, we run the risk of draining our “emotional batteries.” We end up creating a prison, so to speak, of being tired, overwhelmed, and stressed out. If left unchecked, we carry this prison around with us wherever we go.
We all need down time, whether it’s 5 minutes of meditation in the morning or an hour long cardio workout in the evening. This personal time allows us to recenter and bring back balance to our hectic schedules, which ultimately allows us to be more productive in our jobs and emotionally available to our friends and family.
For me, my form of self-care is through yoga and meditation. Every morning I try to wake up at least 30-45 minutes before Ezra does, so that I can do a quick 15 minute gentle yoga flow. It helps me wake up, set intentions for the day, and also practice some loving movement for my body.
In the past, I used to make excuses for not taking this time to myself. One of the biggest ones was that “I didn’t have a space to practice yoga.” However, I’ve since learned that it’s not a lack of space that’s the problem, it’s the clutter that keeps us from defining how to use the room we currently have.
In our previous home, I simply got rid of the coffee table in the living room and then whala! A space to practice yoga. When we moved into our current home, we were blessed to have a spare room, which David graciously allowed me to designate as a personal sanctuary for myself. I call it my "lady lair."
By creating a sanctuary for practicing self-care in my home, I've noticed a huge improvement in my mood. On days when I skip yoga or don't sit down to read, write, and explore my thoughts, I struggle with being fully present to my family and friends. It seems counter intuitive that exerting energy in athletic or creative pursuits would breed more energy, but it's true! It really does make a difference. And creating a space specifically for self-care helps ensure that I follow through with these healthy habits.
If you're following along with me in this challenge, I'd like you to create for yourself a sanctuary for self-care. It doesn't matter if it's a whole room or just a corner of one. It could be your bed, the bathroom, or a small desk in the living room. Just try to think of the activities or things that bring you calm and then carve out a space in your home where you can allow yourself to cultivate that zen feeling. If you already have a space designated for this, make a commitment to spend at least 5 minutes there every day.
You can also leave a comment here or join a community of others participating in this challenge to share what your sanctuary is and don't forget to subscribe to my email list to follow along each day.